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To A Great Year In 2012!

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Mas and Me wishing You a Happy New Year!

 
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Posted by on December 31, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Twas The Night Before Christmas at The Center for America’s First Horse

Ho, ho, ho!

Twas the night before Christmas, when all through the pasture
Not a creature was stirring, not even a horse.
The stockings were hung by the run-in shed with care,
In hopes that Stephanie soon would be there.

Oscar and Little Creek were nestled all snug in the barn,
While visions of grain danced in their heads.
And Pako in his thick fur, and I in my Muck boots,
Had just settled our bottoms for a bit of some food.

When out in the far pasture there arose such a clatter,
I sprang from the bench to see what was the matter.
Away to the gate I flew like a flash
Stepped up on the rung and threw up the hand.

The moon on the breast of the new-fallen snow
Gave the lustre of mid-day to the Vermont hills below.
When, what to my wondering eyes should appear,
But a miniature sleigh, and eight Spanish mustangs all dressed up in gear.

With a sturdy female driver, so lively and quick,
I knew in a moment it must be Stephanie in the guise of St. Nick.
More rapid than draft horses her coursers they came,
And she whistled, and shouted, and called them by name!

“Now Destiny! now, Turtle! now, Morado and Adelentado!
On, Mas! On, Minko! on Maya and Montego!
To the top of the arena! to the top of the wall!
Now dash away! Dash away! Dash away all!”

As white snow that before the wild hurricane fly,
When they meet with an obstacle, mount to the sky.
So up to the arena roof the coursers they flew,
With the sleigh full of grain and hay, and Stephanie too.

And then, in a twinkling, I heard on the arena roof
The prancing and pawing of each little hoof.
As I drew in my head, and was turning around,
Down the side of the wall Stephanie did fall.

She was dressed all in red winter clothes, from her head to her boots,
And her clothes were all dirty with horse shit and looked kind of cute.
A bundle of tack she had flung on her back,
And she looked like a peddler, just opening her pack.

Her eyes-how they twinkled! her dimples how merry!
Her cheeks were like roses, her nose like a cherry!
Her droll little mouth was drawn up like a bow,
And the look on her face was as pretty as snow.

The stump of a piece of straw she held tight in her teeth,
And the smell of fresh hay it floated around her like a wreath.
She had a broad face and a lean little belly,
That was tight when she laughed, like a hock of ham at the deli!

She was fit and full of life, a right jolly old elf,
And I laughed when I saw her, in spite of myself!
A wink of her eye and a twist of her head,
Soon gave me to know I had nothing to dread.

She spoke not a word, but went straight to her work,
And filled all the stockings, then turned with a jerk.
And laying her finger aside of her nose,
And giving a nod, out the arena she goes!

She sprang to her sleigh, to her team gave a whistle,
And away they all flew like the down of a thistle.
But I heard her exclaim, ‘ere she drove out of sight,
“Happy Christmas to all, and to all a good-night!”

Merry Christmas Mas!

 
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Posted by on December 25, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

A Bit More Confidence, Please!

Today I took an online test to measure my self-confidence.  In the past 10 years I have come a long way with building my self-confidence, but in the last year, with the help of a counselor, I realized that I am more self-critical or hard on myself than I thought.

I have been working on becoming more confident and having a stronger positive self-image, and rather than reinforcing thoughts that are self-destructive, or critical of the self, I am building a new self-image that is a bit easier on me!  Often times, we are not consciously aware of how many times we criticize ourselves in a day, or beat ourselves up over insignificant things.  Instead, though, we should be praising our little steps forward and our mini successes; we should be excited about our journey through the magnificent maze of life.

My goal this year has been to be easier on myself and to acknowledge that I will make mistakes and it will be okay.  To realize that I can’t do it all and that I am not perfect.  To be able to say “no” and take control of my time and the way that I spend my days.  Over-committing is a self-destructive behavior because of the lack of personal time, or time to nurture the self.   The interesting thing is that often times over-committing to things is to benefit something other than the self, which seems like a noble thing to do, but the problem is that it is at the expense of the person who is over-committing, at the expense of the self.

Being overly regretful can be another form of self-destructive behavior.  Regret can be positive for our decision-making abilities, but can also be used to beat ourselves over the head again and again for something that we wished we hadn’t done.  A way that I have learned to deal with regret is to see the situation for what it was and to figure out if I was at fault.  If I was not at fault I need to allow myself to accept what happened, considering the circumstances, and if I am at fault, I need to come up with a plan so that the situation does not happen again or if it does happen again, I am better prepared to deal with it and achieve a more favorable outcome.

Building self-confidence is about preparation for positive results!  Having a plan, taking care of ourselves physically and emotionally, working on our positive self-development, and letting others help us along the way.  Knowing that we will stumble and most likely fall, but we will also get back up and brush the dirt from our backsides.

Remember that online quiz that I was talking about earlier?  Well, I did pretty well.  My score said the following:

“You are doing a fabulous job of learning from every experience, and not allowing obstacles to affect the way you see yourself. But you need to nurture self-confidence . . . .”

Here are the recommended steps for building self-confidence:

Building Self-Confidence

No matter what your self-confidence level is right now, you can probably improve it. But you need to believe in yourself and your capabilities before anyone else will.

Bandura’s theory of self-efficacy is a great place to start looking for ways to improve the way you see your abilities. According to the theory, there are four sources of self-efficacy:

  1. Mastery experiences – things you have succeeded at in the past. Develop new mastery experiences.
  2. Vicarious experiences – seeing people who are similar to you succeed. Observe others.
  3. Social persuasion – hearing from others that you’re capable.
  4. Emotional status – staying positive, and managing stress. Don’t let stress take over your life.

Three of these sources (the first, second, and fourth) are within your control. However, while we can’t force people to say good things about us (the third source), we can increase the likelihood of receiving positive feedback by being more confident in general.

Focus on the experiences in your life where you were successful. This can give you the ability to see the positive side of your mistakes and setbacks. Choose to believe in yourself, and surround yourself with other positive and confident people. The more you see the success of others whose skills and abilities are similar to yours, the more likely you are to believe that you can also achieve that success. Combine all of this positive energy with great stress management strategies, and you’ll soon improve your levels of personal confidence.

If we could all be a little better at caring for ourselves and giving ourselves a pat on the back more often, we would live healthier lives and enjoy spending more time with me, myself, and I.

 
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Posted by on December 8, 2011 in Uncategorized